The wound is the place where the light enters you. --Rumi I often work with people on the concept of spiritual trauma, the idea that faith communities, faith leaders, and perhaps even God can be sources of trauma for individuals. While not recognized as a discrete diagnosis in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental … Continue reading The Wounded Healer
The past 3 months have seen unprecedented attacks on transgender, gender non-conforming, and non-binary people in America. On October 21, the New York Times reported that the Department of Health and Human Services, under the auspices of our current presidential administration, is pursuing changing the legal definition of gender under Title IX as a "biological, … Continue reading 7 Ways to Support Trans and Gender Expansive People Right Now
GROUP FACILITATION I have experience facilitating groups related to religion, spirituality, sexuality, gender, and mental health. I believe good facilitation is a skillful art that requires social awareness, empathy, the ability to set boundaries with kindness, and being a grounded presence. I led a monthly topic-focused spirituality group for LGBT adults over a period of … Continue reading Group Facilitation
On a recent morning, as I began my daily dive into social media, Facebook reminded me that I had written this post exactly 2 years earlier: "Friends…what do you do when you're angry at God/the universe? And I don't mean 'How do you eventually feel better about it?" or 'How do you *think* about anger … Continue reading A Small, Queer Hope (and Crash Course in Christian Theology)
The religious landscape for queer and trans people across America has changed dramatically in the last fifteen years. Recognizing the great harm anti-LGBT theology has on the lives of queer and trans people, many faith communities prayerfully changed their theological positions to embrace same-sex marriage, ordination of openly queer and trans leaders, and celebrating gender transition. Networks of out LGBT individuals and allies exist in almost every world faith tradition and subgroup. More and more LGBT people are able to pursue spirituality in accepting communities, though the voices of churches that perpetuate religiously-based stigma still ring loudly in the public consciousness. In a 2013 Pew Research Center nationally-representative survey of LGB people, almost 1 in 3 LGB people reported being made to feel unwelcome in a faith community.
When I tell people about the work I do with LGBT non-profits, I’m usually prepared for a few reactions. I am often asked, "Why should LGBT centers offer religion and spirituality programming?" Because so many queer and trans people have been deeply hurt by religion, there is frequently a lot of [rightful] suspicion that accompanies discussions about faith in these spaces.